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IOnlyKnowHowToLove
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Hello!

Today I recieved one of the coolest Christmas gifts I've gotten this year.

From my ex-girlfriend.

Who I haven't had a decent conversation with in 2 years.

Yeah.

I love the gift, and it's nothing really personal-it's a soft blanket with images of Jack Skellington (Nightmare Before Christmas) on it.

She and I don't not get along, but just grew apart after a nasty break-up. I'll still say hi to her in the hallways at school, but we're not close friends; definitely not close enough to give each other gifts. (or so I thought)

What should I do? I mean, I love the gift, but it's just so weird and awkward; we haven't said anything more than "hi" in two years! Should I talk to her about how uncomfortable it is, or should I just let it go and enjoy the gift?

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Heather
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Sometimes, when a distance between people has happened, giving someone a gift or sending them a card is a way to make clear you still care about them and don't like the distance.

So, how about just sending or leaving her a thank you note, then you can take it from there?

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IOnlyKnowHowToLove
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Thank you for responding!

The thing is, I don't want to be anything more than what we have going now. I really don't want to open up the lines of communication again, as friends or anything else. But, then again, I suppose a thank you note might not do that.

[Big Grin]

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My world, and it's not a place I have to hide in.
Life's not worth a damn,
'Til you can say, 'Hey world, I am what I am.'"
-La Cage Aux Folles

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Heather
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So, you send a thank you note where you perhaps -- kindly -- say, how much you appreciated the gift, and how sorry you are that your relationship dissolved, but that even though you still aren't open to having communication again, you wanted to let her know it was thoughtful.

Or something like that.

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