Me and my gf have been going out for around 7 months now,she is still madly in love with me,but im starting to lose interest in her.She's been smoking pot over the past 2 months,and it makes me soo angry because shes too smart to do it.Every time I try to tell her to stop she says it wont affect her in any way,and its just her way to relieve stress.There is absolutely no arguing with her,because she "has all the facts".I need a way to make her stop without threatening to break up with her,because she takes things way too seriously when it comes to our relationship.
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You can't "make" her stop. You can only tell her you are concerned about her behavior as someone who cares about her and that what she's doing isn't OK with you. Any decision after that is her call.
YOU, however, have the power to say "I'm done". You can't be accountable for her behavior, but you can be for yours. If smoking marijuana is a deal breaker for you, and she's not willing to stop because it's important to you, than perhaps you DO need to consider leaving the relationship not as a manipulative move to get her to stop, but because this type of behavior is not okay with you.
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