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splishysplash
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my boyfriend of quite a bit and i have been i guess orally sexually active. it's always easy to make him orgasm, but i've never orgasmed in the past and he seems kind of set on having me reach that pleasure point - i feel bad, i really do, because i know he wants me to reach orgasm but i don't actually know how to help him. is there a way to ease him into i guess idk, looking it up online or something? my experience with this stuff doesn't go further than what we have done together and i'm kind of stuck as to handle the situation

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strumpet
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are you able to orgasm on your own?
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EVivian
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Also, let him know that it's perfectly normal for many girls to not easily reach orgasm. It may take some time to figure out what will make you climax, and there's no reason for you to feel bad just because it's difficult for you at this time. If he's truly interested in making you orgasm, he shouldn't be obsessing over it (which will only stress you out and make it harder for you) but focus on your overall comfort level and enjoyment. He may also need to try different activities (depending on what you're comfortable with) to find the one that works for you.

Just make sure you're doing this for yourself, not because you feel obliged to orgasm. [Smile]

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Devourer
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Like EVivian said, it's important to not feel obligated to orgasm. If ya' worry about it, it can put a roadblock in achieving an orgasm.
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