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Niki
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I have this acquaintance... We get along well usually, but the other day he kinda snapped at me. He was mad, but I didn't really do anything to him so I was a little hurt, espacially since I was in a bad mood already. Well, he didn't even try to apoligize, nor seem to care and that made it worse.

Well, now, I'm hanging out with my boyfriend and I haven't seem him in so long so I'm trying to forget that but its hard. So not only am I mad, I also feel guilty cause my mind keeps going back to that. I'm scared maybe I like him or something, but I don't want to because I LOVE my boyfriend and I LOVE the relationship we have.

I just want to be able to enjoy my boyfriend without this other guy.

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JamsessionVT
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I guess I'm not sure why this is causing so many problems.

Obviously when anyone is rude or behaves negatively towards us, it bothers us, and some shrug it off better than others. It's pretty clear that this got to you, but at some point, especially if this is not a life-long friend with whom you really want to stay friends (you referred to him as an "acquaintance", thus I'm assuming he isn't the former) you really need to just let it go. People act like jerks: they have off moments, they say mean things, and plenty of times they won't acknowledge any of it. Sometimes it's just better to let it slide.

I'm hearing that you love you partner and love your relationship, and that this is more of a shock to you than any feelings of love towards this guy. My suggestion? Don't second guess yourself, and just try and let this one slide.

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Niki
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It bothers me because
1. he doesn't need to be a jerk to me when I didn't do anything

and

2. I don't know why I can't keep my mind off of it.

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JamsessionVT
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Like I said before, unless this is some life-long friend whose friendship you value, let this one go. This is so not worth racking your brain over [Smile]

We can't always understand or explain why people act the way they do. The best you can do is explain to him why what he did upset you, and ask for an apology, but even then you might not get what you want.

So, I'd just suggest forgetting it ever happened. Probably not the answer you wanted to hear, but this is really not worth the effort you're putting into it, you know?

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