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belladonna
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So... I mentioned in some past posts that I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 4 months ago. It got a little dramatic afterwards, because he was very very hurt while I had asked to remain friends. Things have been a lot better in recent weeks, although last month he brought it up again and pretty much demanded to know what was going on between me and the new guy that I am seeing.

I guess what I'm asking is... does he really have a "right" to know everything about my new relationship? Like, he asks in a very interrogative manner whether I've kissed the new guy, or held hands. I know he hasn't completely moved on, and I am willing to give him time and space. He says he still wants us to hang out and talk, though. The problem is, I end up feeling like I have to hide stuff about my new relationship because I don't want things to be uncomfortable again between us or hurt him more.

What should I do?

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JamsessionVT
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You tell him, as politely as possible, to back off.

If he gets space, that means you do to. You have done nothing wrong on your end by moving on and dating someone else. He doesn't have a leg to stand on when it comes to needing to know about your current relationship status.

I don't doubt this is hard for him, but you've done everything you can to try and soften is for him, try to remain friends, hang out, etc. But it's none of his business who you see now.

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