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perfectviolet
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me and my girlfriend have just started having sex and i want to know a few positions that we can try out that will give more variety, and more pleasure to her while its happening. just easy and simple ones will do, thanks.

[ 09-23-2008, 04:21 PM: Message edited by: perfectviolet ]

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perfectviolet
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i hope this is in the correct forum, sorry if it isnt [Frown]
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Heather
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It's fine to post it here, but honestly, positioning is something a couple finds out about primarily by experimenting, because no two bodies fit together exactly the same way.

If you want, you can go grab a book on sex positions, but for real, it's stuff you can figure out on your own just through trial and error. And that *should* be the fun part. A crib sheet for sex tends to make it about how other people have sex rather than about unique discoveries for the two of you.

Just be aware that a majority of women do not reach orgasm with intercourse alone no matter how you're positioned, so if she's not really experiencing a lot of pleasure, the way to get there is usually to add other sexual activities -- either before, during or after -- rather than (or as well as) changing positions.

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perfectviolet
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ok thanks. i know that most women don't reach orgasm with intercourse, i just meant to make it more fun in bed...thanks
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Heather
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Like I said, you can just experiment, and really, it's the experimenting that is what's often most fun.

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Halfy
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As you're new to sex, don't go overboard with these positions. Take things as they naturally occur and you'll be much happier.

If you really want some variety though just alternate between who's on top.

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I deleted your post, sxxm, because it contains a link to an inappropriate website. Please realize that linking to over 18 sites/ones that show explicit photographs of sexual positions are against the Guidelines.

If you continue to post promoting that site, you'll quickly find yourself banned. If you would like to stay, we ask you edit your sig to exclude the link and keep all replies/links to sources age-appropriate. Thanks!

[ 09-29-2008, 02:17 PM: Message edited by: *Lauren* ]

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Unknown J
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I have a ? my girlfreind is not a virgin but she hasent had penatrating sex at all or sex with a guy for that matter and i never had sex with someone whos cherry wasen't "popped" soo i'm afraid of hurting her but we both agreed that we are going to try it soo any advice that would make it less painful or anything we should know because tho she keeps me informed i have a feeling she might leave out something that might freak me out thanks Unkown J
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(Unknown J, next time it would be better if you started a post of your own for your questions, so as not to get overlooked.)

First of all, if you feel that she may not be completely honest with you, I'd hold of on the sex until you two feel better about communicating with each other. That's a pretty bit part of sex, so if you go into it feeling like you may not get the whole story, that's not a good idea.

Second of all, there is no cherry in a girl's vagina. There also aren't any apples, bananas or cantaloupes. What you're probably talking about is the hymen, which gets stretched with intercourse and eventually wears away. Since the hymen itself doesn't have any nerve endings, this shouldn't hurt much at all as long as you make sure she's fully relaxed and aroused, go slowly and use lots of lube.

Here are some articles you may also find useful:
Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner
Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
First Intercourse 101

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