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jill kim
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there is a guy that i was always attracted to.
hes a classmate...technically we've known each other since the 6th grade...and now we're both going to be juniors in highschool.... so its been a while. but we've never had a decent convo until recently.
he sent me a random IM saying hi...and i was a bit surprised so i asked him if he needed anything... and he said no...and that he just wanted to talk....
and we started connecting...so now...whenever he signs on...we talk for hours...
its fun at times...but sometimes it gets a bit awkward.... and i always make an effort to keep the convo going...but its hard...
im starting to fall for him...and i dont know how to bring this up. unfortunately...we dont have a lot of classes together which is a problem...and im confused...whether he feels the same way? or...is just really bored.

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The best thing you can do is ask. [Smile]

We can't tell you what he's thinking because we obviously don't know either, but if you believe a more serious relationship is something you want to pursue with him, it's easiest if you simply ask if he is interested.

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jill kim
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how do you approach this?
what if the relationship gets all weird?

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You would probably know better than me how to approach it as I do not know him personally, but if it does not feel like the right time for you now, you may just want to wait a little while. If you like, go ahead and continue these conversations you're having with him so that you two get to know each other a little better. After that point, if you're still interested in a relationship and he seems like he would like to, as well, it may be easier then to ask him about it.

Sometimes, when we're going from friendship to something more (or also in other models), things do get "all weird." It just happens. But waiting until you are more comfortable with him and you know each other better may make things easier.

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