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Evienne M.
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I'm thirteen turning fourteen in five months and my best friend had turned fourteen in January. His girlfriend just recently dumped him after a 3 week fight and almost a seven month relationship and my boyfriend moved to a different province a while ago. So he and I have been talking on the phone to just help each other out like really late at night. Plus we have a bit of history. Only a little, but still history none the less. So we’ve been talking over the phone and soon enough the subject of sex became a regular topic to talk about... We had conversed about it so much as a joke that it started to get serious. Now I have a sex buddy. You know someone to have No-Strings-Attached sex with. We’re not even dating, but he and I know that we’re ready to take this thing on, but of course I’m worried about pregnancy and all that stuff. I know I can’t get birth control without my parents finding out and if this “ Dirty Little Secret ” were to get public, I’d get kicked out of school, no doubt about it, because I go to a private school. Matter of fact, both he and I go to private schools. So we’d both get kicked out. Do you have any advice on this? And any tips for what I should do? Like, I’m a virgin and so is he, we haven’t actually had sex yet, but does anyone have anything? And please if you're going to tell me I'm too young, then no thank you. But if it means something, then maybe, just remember I'm looking for advice. Not people telling me I'm a wh*re or something.
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Generally, if a given person just knows they will not be able to do the basic things to reduce their risks and tend to their sexual health -- whether they are 13 or 30, so it's not really an age issue -- we'll advise them to hold off until they can, or, at the very least, only engage in low-risk activities. Anyone leaping right into intercourse before taking time with other activities doesn't usually result in the good stuff, anyway, physically or emotionally.

Same goes for people who have a whole lot to lose by being sexually active: if sexual activity earnestly puts your education at risk, I think we can agree that is a LOT to lay on the line for something that easily keeps, no?

By the by? Anyone who calls anyone here names of any kind either gets a stern warming then booted if they repeat it, or gets booted right away. That's SO not okay here, so you do not need to ask people not to call you names here.

One more thing? After a breakup, it's often best for folks to take some time for themselves before jumping into something new -- even something casual, though I'd not really call sex between best friends casual just because it isn't romantic. Rebounding kinda bites, and being someone's rebound isn't so fun, either. [Smile]

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Edit: Heather got it.

[ 08-02-2008, 08:23 PM: Message edited by: Coastal Nicole ]

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