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Aimalicious
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Okay so, when I first met my boyfriend over two years ago, everyone called him by his last name. So when we were just friends, that's what I called him. Never thought I'd end up dating him for well over a year.
Now, it's just so strange to call him by his first name. I just can't do it. I can say it when I talk about him, but not to him.
Sometimes, I still call him by his last name and he doesn't like it.
When I want to get his attention, I yell his first AND last name.

Is that strange?

How can I bring myself to overcome the awkward feeling I get?
I just dont understand why I'm like this!

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It doesn't seem so terribly strange, really. In fact, something similar has happened to me: I met my partner through a group of mutual friends, and they call him by a nickname. So from the start, I've known him by that name. Only when we started dating and I got more inolved in his life did I find out that no one but that group of mutual friends calls him by that nickname. Everyone else -other friends, collegues, his family, etc- call him by a different name. It's a bit disorienting, but ultimately, I'm still using that other nickname, because that is who he is to me.

Have you asked him why it bothers him if you use his last name? Maybe it would help if you explained to him why you feel more comfortable with his last name.

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Aimalicious
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I told him that's how I met him. I know him as "Kellogg's"
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Weird though it is at first, the more you use his first name the more comfortable it will become.

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