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orca
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So I know that you can't really tell us techniques and such, but my boyfriend and I have been together 2+ years now. This past november he moved 4 hours away for school. He still visits as often as he can. It used to be every 2 weeks, but now his rent has gone up and he can only afford to come once a month. He has roommates that he's really not so sure of yet so I can't visit him until he knows them better. Well, lately he's been wanting me to "talk dirty" to him on the phone. I kind of lack imagination with that so I was wondering if you could give me any suggestions on how to think a bit more creatively.

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Heather
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You know, with things like this it's not so much about us being unable to give young people techniques as it is that it's kind of a bummer to use someone else's script for any sort of sex, if you get me.

Phone sex apeals to some people, and it doesn't to others. And some people do it by actually doing a lot of talking, creating scenarios, descirbing how they're touching themselves, and others do it by not really talking so much at all, just holding the phone up while each are masturbating. So, it's one of those things where it's all about tailoring what appeals to and feels natural for you and your partner.

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orca
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Well I don't think I could ever do the masturbating while on the phone thing, and honestly I don't think he's even masturbating while I talk. I think he just likes hearing the ideas and then saving it for later use when he's masturbating in private.
Hehe. Maybe I'll try making some Dungeons&Dragons scenario. (We're both big dorks so he'd get a kick out of it. [Smile] )

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Hey, if you're a gamer, then it's silly to say you don't have any imagination: you gaming types are generally pretty imaginative, creative folks. [Smile]

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True, but not in my case. I make a lot of pauses when trying to imagine things whereas he can think things up nonstop. I think it's just my perfectionist nature. I used to just be the book-reading type till my boyfriend turned me into a gamer. They can be so tricky sometimes. [Wink]

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