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TheCitizenErased
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Me and my gf have been going out for almost 6 months now but recently ive been questioning myself, if i was going "off" her or not.It had been eating away at me for a few days and eventually i told her.She was very very upset and asked if i was breaking up with her and i sed no and that i love her and want to be with her.So the next day she acted strange and i could see it but i kep my mouth closed because i didnt want to start an argument.Anyway later that night she came out (she was drunk) and we walked about and she told me that she thought i didnt love her and maybe that i thought i did.She again got very upset and i assured her that i did love her.
So everything was going good again until i started to question if i acctually love her.I understand that everyone has different definitions for love.I began to become unsure and it was killing me inside but when i acctually sat down and thought about it and when im with her i just know that i do...but the problem is i keep questioning it [Confused] can somebody plz help!

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jhawked451
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Well, to be honest I was just there a few months ago. My girlfriend and I had been getting into some huge fights and I was quesioning if i did love her. I realized that I did, but then it just didn't feel right. Maybe you just need to step back and stop analyzing. When you are unsure, it is usually leads to asking tons of questions that shouldn't be asked if yuo really do love her. I hope that helps.

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TheCitizenErased
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I honestly cant thank you enough.It really helps.Thanks [Wink]

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ghostie
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It's good that you were honest with her, even though it upset her. [Smile]
You say you've been together six months. Often, the "honeymoon period" of relationships where everything seems wonderful wears off, and things become normal and you have gotten to know a person. Things feel less exciting like new relationships do.
It's certainly a common aspect of many relationships.
Step back and think about everything in your relationship, all the good and the bad etc.
It's not essential to have love in a relationship at all [Smile]
I myself have been together with my boyfriend over a year and we haven't spoken of love.

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