The Boy and I are taking a break. The decision was reached for a myriad of reasons, mainly boiling down to our long distance arrangement not helping his depression in the slightest. We still love each other, but the strain was wearing on him. Neither of us are particularly happy at the moment -- I believe the term is "collectively miserable" -- but he felt that an upcoming insane course load would result in him ignoring me. I've never really been able to convince him that he was a good boyfriend despite his mental/emotional problems, and this definitely tipped the scales. We plan on reevaluating things in May once the school year is over and I've moved up to where he's currently living. In the meantime we're going to continue talking regularly, probably meeting up when he's in town.
Here's my question: what exactly does one do while taking a break? I know the usual: keep busy, hang out with friends, throw yourself into a hobby... I mean emotionally. It's not as though our feelings have even changed. He just wants time to focus on his work without being paranoid about how he's treating me. I'm not quite sure what I'm supposed to do with myself in the meantime. This is all made slightly more complicated by the fact that I'm a monogamy kind of gal; I couldn't date casually just to keep myself busy. Should I assume that this is the end of things? I don't want to be naive by flat-out expecting things to return to normal in the spring. Where's the happy medium between moving on completely and staying open to change in the future?
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