about 2 months ago me and a close friend of mine and me became better friends and we started going out. The problem is that i've NEVER had any kind of this relationship in my life, and i can only go on what i've seen of all my other friends having closer relationships with girls. Of course these guys are treating them like another fling, so im trying to be myself and just act normal around her like i did before we got together. On msn we can talk for hrs about anything, yet at school i find myself blushing every time she comes over to talk to me. She's fine with it and understands that i'm nervous about it all, but i feel that my severe nerves around her might be the end of something that could be really good. We like each other a lot, and have a lot of fun together, but i still can't say all of the things that i'd like to. I need a way to calm my nerves and find a way to be myself around her. Please HELP!
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Laughing Man, have you told her what you've just told us? If you find it easier to chat to her on msn, perhaps you could try there.
It sounds like she's a pretty understanding partner, and who knows, maybe she has some fears herself-- and maybe you could talk about that together. Don't forget that it's okay to move at your own pace, so long as you are open and honest with your partner about your needs and your feelings. What other people do may not be relevant to your situation-- just work this out for yourselves, between the two of you-- and give yourselves the time that you need to do that.
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