My boyfriend was suppose to spend the day with me yesturday after I got out of class. When I got out of my class I tried to call him and I sent text messages numerous times, but couldn't get an answer. Around 11pm I sent another text saying "I need a real man in my life". He immediately called me this morning out of my sleep leaving a message saying "I got your message, what's that all about". Then a couple of hours later, he leaves another message saying how he's sorry and he was wrong for not contacting me and if I were to do this to him he would be upset also. He told me he took some Benadryl for his sinuses and woke up at midnight,which may be true but this is not the first time he's done this. I told him I feel mistreated because he says he loves me, but it's like he doesn't respect my feelings. What should I do?????
Posts: 12 | From: Huntsville,AL USA | Registered: Mar 2002
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Sometimes saying things like 'you dont respect my feelings' isn't enough. You need to be specific. What is it that you need your boyfriend to do that he isn't currently doing?
Is your boyfriend currently happy w/ the relationship? Is it possible that he's not happy either?
Things like "I need a real man in my life" is also pretty cryptic. What's a real man? It is also pretty offensive to suggest that your boyfriend isn't a real man, whatever that is. Offending someone you're trying to open the lines of communication w/ is not often going to yeild positive results.
Be open, be honest, and try not be so offensive. He's not likely to want to listen to you if you say things like this. Be specific. Saying you need a real man in your life is not okay. Saying you need your boyfriend to spend a little more time/energy w/ you is.
On-topic, if your boyfriend has such big problems with his sinuses, you might suggest he see a doctor (not to start a fight over this stuff, but just to make sure he's okay). I'd suggest discussing this situation with him pretty seriously--you guys need to be able to trust each other. If he doesn't get to see you and doesn't let you know, and you also kinda flip out with angry texts, there might be some deeper issues here.
There's not really so much any of us can do unless you discuss this with him first.
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