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Aela 57
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I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half. I've just been thinking about things and I just really wanted to post even though what I say might not make much sense.

I was very unhappy for ages in the relationship, it had really turned to friendship for how I saw our relationship and I wanted to end things for quite a while, but he loved me so much and was so dependant on me emotionally.

Now I finally broke up with him I just feel really bad. Before all I thought about was building myself up to do it, now I just feel bad.

I was trying to figure out why, and I don't regret it, or wish I hadn't or anything like that, I guess it's a bit that I hate that I really hurt him but mainly I think it's because I sort of ruined what was and had the potential to be a great relationship by stopping being in love, by breaking up, etc.

I don't know what my point in this post is, I just really wanted to post to get support I guess so, any feedback would be really nice.

Thanks everyone.

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Aela. 19, 5'9. Often confused.

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DarkChild717
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It's not your fault for falling out of love, really. It happens. People grow and change. This is especially true in your teen years, considering you were 17 or so when you started dating?

Feeling bad is normal, too. But it will get easier with time. In the meantime, do you have a job, or a hobby to keep you busy? How about volunteering? There's plenty of oppurtunities available right now, with it being summer.

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Aela 57
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Yes, 17 when we started dating.

With it being summer I'm doing quite a lot of hours at work which takes my mind off things, I'm working in a shop part time. And I went out on my bike earlier today to the countryside and it felt great.

Thank you for being so nice I really appreciate your reply and I think I'll look into volunteering too, it's a great idea.

[Smile]

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Aela. 19, 5'9. Often confused.

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