So heres the thing i'm SO used to dating older guys like i've never really had a bf that is less then 2 years older than me, and most of my friends are 20+ years old, (i'm 17-18 in feb) i just find older people easier and more intelligent to talk to and less childish. i've recently been spending quite a bit of time with this guy whos a year below me in school, (grade 11, i'm grade 12) he's really nice, cute, and SMART. he can actually hold quite an intelligent conversation sometimes more then my older friends. we think alike and we have alot of the same interests and i'm starting to develop a thing for him. the thing is, i can't get out of my comfort zone of older guys. i have this rep that i only date older guys and i think this guy knows about that. he's also a tad flirtatious with other girls and i dont want to seem like an idiot getting shot down by a younger man. but today he walked in with this girl who his friend was trying to set him up with and he came and sat by me and put his arm around me and stuff and was all cuddly (but not in a way to make someone else jealous, but in an actual, sweet, protective i like you kinda way) i'm kind of confused on what i should do, if i should just let it take its own course and see what happens (maybe he doesn't feel what i feel between us?) or should i make a move and risk it? suggestions? i'm just so nervous about my comfort zone of older guys
Posts: 31 | From: White Rock, BC, Canada | Registered: Aug 2004
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Ok, I might not be the best person to say this, and it might sound mean, but... get down from the clouds! When it comes to relationships, I think the phrase "I have a rep" is the last one that should show up. You either care about someone or you don't.
You've always dated other guys, you said yourself you've done that because you feel comfortable around them, because they can have decent conversations, because they are smart. Now you've found someone who is actually younger who can do that too. So if really you consider guys for their intelligence, then his age shouldn't be a problem.
If you care about this guy, it doesn't matter if he's younger
My intention is not to insult you, I hope I haven't. It's just that my sister had serious problems at school because of the whole "reputation" thing. I don't want that to happen to someone else.
Hope you can sort it out
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Posts: 114 | From: El Salvador, but living in London :) | Registered: Aug 2002
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This guy that you're talking about seems to have good qualities. Maturity isn't always measured by age and some people mature earlier than others it's different for everyone. My boyfriend is a year younger than me and I was attracted to older guys before too. I agree with Leni. Please don't let your reputation come between you and someone you could have a possible relationship with. I'm sorry if I in any way sound like I'm insulting you by saying that.
If you really care about this person and think there's a possibility of a relationship with them sit down and think about it. Does age really matter when you really like someone? Personally I don't think it does, but that's a choice you have to make yourself.
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