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How do you tell if your ready or not for sex? Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months and we have talked about sex. He say it can happen when im ready but how do u know when your ready? I care about him alot and even though he dosent pressure me i guess it's just everybody else aroun me cuz sometimes i do feel pressured but i dont do it. I think mostly im scared of everything that can happen. And i hope that he will be able 2 wait for me.
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Only you can decide when you're ready. But there are things to take into consideration:

Are you above the age of consent? In Texas, it's 17. If you are under that age, your parnter, if older, may be faced with prosecution.

Are you able to pay for everything? Condoms, Lube, Emergency Contraception if needed, Birth Control pills if wanted, Pregnancy test, an Abortion or a Baby if your birth control methods fail?

Have you and your partner been tested for STD's, even if you both are "virgins"? Remember, you can have an STD without having sexual intercourse.

Please read our checklist, Ready or Not? It gives a thorough look at what you need to consider.

If you take proper precautions, there's less of a risk.

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Being scared is normal.
I was too. He also told me he'll wait for me. But sometimes i felt pressured because of the "everyone does it when you're in a relationship" thought .
But i made him wait :P We were going out for 4 month before having sex.
And it was worth waiting because i felt safe and confortable with him. Every thing went allright
The time will be right when you feel more confident about it. It'll be normal to be a little bit scared it's smthing new for you
It took me time to tell him all my fears (afraid to be hurt, afraid to be compared to his ex...) but after telling him my worries sort of disapeard.
You say it yourself "you are afraid of every thing hat ca happen".
He will wait for you, if he is good guy
There's no correct answer to "when are you ready". You'll feel it

Ready? on scarlet's site

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Well it sounds like your getting pretty good advice from everyone else. It might sound a little bit cheesey but you really should wait until your sure its what you want. Having sex with someone can really change the dynamics of the relationship and you need to be sure that you can both recognize that.
Whatever your decision just make sure that you make it for yourself and only yourself.

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