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my boyfriend and i have broken up for about 2 months now and i cant get over him.. i tried and tried and i have given myself time to heal but i still havent. i am not in a relationship right now because i cant stop think about him everything i do i think about him. it is like we have some sort of best friend told me that maybe its because he's the first person i ever had sex with or actually did anything with with ... maybe that's it i dont know..... he now.. has a girlfriend and they are always together when i see them and it makes me feel a sort of way inside.. he looks at me and i look at him but we dont say a word to each other.. i dont know why i am still hooked on him... i need HELP!!!
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I know how you feel I have been in that situation. But eventually you will have to move on and be happy. The best way to get him off your mind is to keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends, hang out with boys(that will really take your mind of of it). Just have fun. Dont worry so much and dont be so hard on yourself, it will only make things harder on you. Be happy.
Hope this helps. Good Luck~

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Two months may feel like a long time, but it really isn't.

And if you'd jumped into another relationship before now, that'd probably have been too soon regardless: casual dating, sure. But one needs some time to process after a breakup before starting something new and serious.

Getting over any sort of first-anything or anyone always takes some time. Be patient. Hang out with friends, pursue your goals and hobbies.

If nne of that helps, sometimes it is helpful to get a little resolution, so you could always ask your ex if you two can have coffee soon and just say anything left over you need to say, let him know he was important to you, et cetera. Sometimes tying up loose ends like that can make a difference.

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Well, I think I know what you mean. I like this boy named Alec and he dated my friend Taryn. They broke up only four weeks ago. I've liked him for over a year now, but I haven't really said anything. My friends nd his friends know that I like him but they have different point of views. They think me and him date now, but we don't. We're just close friends. Tell me more about your story.

Rhasheda Patterson

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well me and this boy have been together for 10 months.. 10 really good months despite the ups and down. but i really loved him. it actually felt like he was a part of me he was my other half and now he gone a whole side of me feel so lonely and helpless.when we broke up i cried my heart out.. i just couldnt believe that it was actually over.. i didnt have anyone to talk to so i kept every bundled up inside and i never even got to tell him how i really felt about him.. i was really torn apart...what ever i did or say went right back to him meaning i couldnt do anything with out him in my mind.. i thought about all the times we were together what we did together everything just came in mind and it about 2 or so moths that we have been broken up and i still have these feeling deep down in me.. although he has a girlfriend i still have these feelings and i dont know why they just wont go away..i have had opportunities to get into another relationship but i cant because no matter what i do these feelings just go back to him.i would really like to get back with him but i dont think i ave enough courage to do that and besides he may reject me

........sorry it being so long..........

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