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richardhawks112
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hello, my name is richard. I am 16 years old, this year, i met a girl, at first i wasnt really attracted to her, but after i hung out with her i started to realize that i got along with her personality really well, and that her physical features she had just...were perfect, i absolutly love her, i know that im just a teenager, and that my parents are saying you cant fall in love and things like that, but i know i love her. The problem people seem to have is that she is 14. I have no problem about it, and i really dont care what other people think. But i try to balance out believing in myself with listening to advice of others...is it really wrong to absolutly love her..i mean we are both in high school, but its like..i dont know, i just need advice...
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DarkChild717
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First and foremost, the age of consent in Oregon is 18. If you do date her, you need to remember that she is really sexually off limits to you until both of you are over that age limit. Otherwise, you could end up in a whole lot of trouble. Like, convicted with statutory rape and having to register as a sex-offender trouble.

Can love happen? Yeah. Sure. It can. Is it wrong? Not necessarily. But you are quite young. You both have a lot of growing up to do. You also have a lot of time to decide. I'm 20 and still growing and changing. As a glimmer of hope, though, I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 19.

Also, have her parents placed a limit on when she can date? If they have, what is it? That might also make a difference in whether or not you date, seeing as it's never any good to lie to one's parents.


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richardhawks112
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alright thank you for the info, and no, they haven't placed any restrictions on me, they know i absolutly love her, and i do care about her, yeah, i've gotten several talks about having the rest of my life. I understand them, but its..i dont know, thank you for the hope and advice. Oh hey i know this is off topic, but am i allowed to put scarleteen.com on a diffrent website to direct people here, cause this is the best website i've found so far.
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