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BonnieWright13
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Well me and my friend like all friends I'm sure played around a couple years ago. We went swimming naked and showed our parts and stuff. She grew out of it but I lied and said I did too. Well ever since then I've had off and on feelings for her. Over the summer I told another friend that I wanted to "do it" with her. Well this friend ended up telling her. So she now knows. Then for awhile my feelings really went away. Now they are bigger than ever. I keep having fantasies about her. I want to tell her I love her as more than my best friend. I want to take a chance with this. I want to persue a relationship or mabey a sexual relationship with her. But were only 13... How do I go about this. I need some advice.
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It's okay to have these feelings. But acting on them, especially if your friend doesn't feel the same way, might pose some pretty complicated feelings.

Just as an aside, the age of consent in Kentucky is 16. This applies to same-sex intercourse, as well. As such, we can't advocate you engaging in sexual intercourse.

In the mean time, here's some articles for you to look at.

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Also, browse through this thread. It may help.


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Boy your only 13, your focus right now should be on school, work and out door or school sports. your to young to be thinking about sexual things. Get a grip and focus on better things.
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Dymes, it isn't your place to criticize what someone else wants or their choices. You are to treat everyone here with respect at all times. You need to review the guidelines before you continue posting.

[This message has been edited by ookuotoe (edited 11-14-2005).]


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ookuotoe Sigh*
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Heather
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(Dymes, you're one small step from being banned. So, you wanna stay here, knock it off.)
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Isn't it pretty common for people in that age group to be attracted to the same sex? I remember reading somewhere that sometimes it might just be a phase. Don't do anything you think you might regret, and please don't break the law.
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It's only a phase in the same way that attraction to the opposite sex at a young age is also a phase.

In other words, sexuality is, to a great degree, phasalfor EVERYONE, and during sexual development ANY sort of attraction or sexual draw could be a phase or stage of that development. There's nothing to show same-sex attraction is that way any more so than opposite-sex attraction. Rather, our culture sets opposite-sex atraction as the norm, so when anyone settles into that primarily, everything else is seen as a phase.


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quote:
Originally posted by Miz Scarlet:
It's only a phase in the same way that attraction to the opposite sex at a young age is also a phase.

In other words, sexuality is, to a great degree, phasalfor EVERYONE, and during sexual development ANY sort of attraction or sexual draw could be a phase or stage of that development. There's nothing to show same-sex attraction is that way any more so than opposite-sex attraction. Rather, our culture sets opposite-sex atraction as the norm, so when anyone settles into that primarily, everything else is seen as a phase.


Thanks. I just meant that sometimes you're attracted to anyone and everyone at one point, and then your attraction might shift to someone or something else, or just stay the same.

At one point, I was more attracted to men than women, then it was the opposite, and now it's pretty even. Things change; that's pretty much what I wanted to say.


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