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shawnghettogirl
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well im 15 and my boyfriend is 17 about to be 18 and me and him have been together for nine months and we really love each other but we do have sex but every body is telling me that i need to leave him alone but i really love him and concidering we have been togethere for so long i cant do that what should i do
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LilBlueSmurf
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First of all, do know that it is actually illegal in the state of Florida for you and your boyfriend to be having intercourse. You're not of age to consent, legally, and this could get him in big trouble.

Do you know why everybody is telling you you should leave him? Who is 'everybody'?

I'm going to move this to Relationships so you can respond.


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shawnghettogirl
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quote:
Originally posted by shawnghettogirl:
well im 15 and my boyfriend is 17 about to be 18 and me and him have been together for nine months and we really love each other but we do have sex but every body is telling me that i need to leave him alone but i really love him and concidering we have been togethere for so long i cant do that what should i do
............................................................yeah i do know thats illegal and he could be put i jail but hes not eighteen yet and its just a couple of my friends my parents know and they are okay with everything but i can see him when im 16 right


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Celtic Daisy
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Hi, could you please ellaborate on your question a little? Why is it that people are telling you to leave him alone? You're a little vague in your problem and that makes it a little more difficult to give advice.

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Please know that your parents cannot give you "permission" to have underage sex.

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Celt's right, we have no idea what your actual question is.

legally, there's no age limit on dating. ut in Florida, your boyfriend could go to jail and be stuck registering as a sex offender for the rest of his life if you guys get caught. that means he could never work as a teacher, a sports coach, scout leader, or anything that involved kids. he might also be ineligible for college, good jobs, and places to live. that's a loss of a HUGE amount of freedom.

think real hard about how you feel about this guy. sure, your parents know, but if for whatever reason you two get caught (anyone else can call the cops), your parents can't tell the cops that gave you the ok to have sex. it's still the law. now, if oyu love this guy so much and have been through a lot, how would you feel if something were ot happen to him? that's at least several months in jail. not juvie either, but JAIL. with hardened criminals. And when he gets out, the police will track him like a dog. being outside the bars won't guarantee freedom.

ask yourself. is the sex so good that you are willing to risk his future for it?

kissing and holding hands is a-ok. so is snuggling by the fire.

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shawnghettogirl
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quote:
Originally posted by Gumdrop Girl:
Celt's right, we have no idea what your actual question is.

legally, there's no age limit on dating. ut in Florida, your boyfriend could go to jail and be stuck registering as a sex offender for the rest of his life if you guys get caught. that means he could never work as a teacher, a sports coach, scout leader, or anything that involved kids. he might also be ineligible for college, good jobs, and places to live. that's a loss of a HUGE amount of freedom.

think real hard about how you feel about this guy. sure, your parents know, but if for whatever reason you two get caught (anyone else can call the cops), your parents can't tell the cops that gave you the ok to have sex. it's still the law. now, if oyu love this guy so much and have been through a lot, how would you feel if something were ot happen to him? that's at least several months in jail. not juvie either, but JAIL. with hardened criminals. And when he gets out, the police will track him like a dog. being outside the bars won't guarantee freedom.

ask yourself. is the sex so good that you are willing to risk his future for it?

kissing and holding hands is a-ok. so is snuggling by the fire.


......................................................alright my question is should we stop having sex and just be together until i turn 16 because i have done research and it says that in florida if your 16 you are legal and so should we wait till i turn 16 to have sex again because of the fact that i do really love him ....


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Gumdrop Girl
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ohh...

okay. it's good if you guys can wait till you're both legal. it's to worth it if you gt in trouble. if you love him, you want to keep him safe, right? honestly, you got the rest of your lives to have sex. its not worth blowing your chances at a future now just for half an hour of sex. yes, you can stop, even if you've started. and if he loves you too, he'll understand that you want to avoid trouble. if you can explain the things that could happen to him, i'm sure that'd make him understand even more clearly.

so if you can, it'd be much safer for you to to kiss, cuddle, hold onto each other. it's not like you love each other any less, right? right. so just a year or so of waiting. it'll be past before you know it.

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