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antonio99
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There is one person in my class who keeps smiling at me. She kept looking at me, glancing at me, and kept on smiling. I thought she was interested in me. After class she would wait for me to spark a conversation. We got to know each other a bit then one day she gave me a note. It said, "Have a great rest of the day! I get off work at 7 or so. I'll emal you back then I promise . I've been sick the past few days so I apologize for not emailing. I sure have missed talking to you though! "

I know I'm not giving much details here. I'm curious if she is interested in me or not. Advice ?


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JamsessionVT
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Ask her.

If you've got a hunch, and inkling, a hint, a clue, or any other word for it, ask.

It never hurt anyone to ask, especially if you like her back. What's the worst thing that could happen? I'd say a note is a good hint.

But in case you have doubts, I'd wait a little longer, to see if maybe she might drop you another hint if you are weary of asking at this point in time.

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Jam,

Thanks. What's the worst thing that could happen? Simple... how to tell her that I am in a relationship but at the same time I enjoy being her friend. That's the worst thing that could happen.

I do detect those obvious and subtle hints from her. It's just not a good thing to keep her going because I am in a 2 yr relationship with a woman who loves me a lot. And that I love her too.

It's true that I am infatuated with the woman who gave me the note. Deep inside I can see that she is a special person and that she is loving and caring too.

My problem is how to tell her that we should be friends? I really don't want to hurt her feelings.

Advice ?


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Right now, I don't think you have to do anything.

Who says you have to jump in and say "I really like you, but I think we should just be friends"?

Sounds like your friendship is going pretty well, so why do anything to alter it? Unless she makes a move on you, I don't think you have to do anything, or say anything to anyone at the moment.

And if she does make a move: simple, plain english. "I am in a relationship right now, but I'd really like to stay friends with you because I value our friendship". Those simple words may not hurt as much as you think they might

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