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Psycho_girl14!!!
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All my friends seem mad at me..they keep asking me what my other friends are saying and it is getting really annoying...some of them are saying i hate boys...just because of this quote... (does it sound like i hate boys...)"Boys say i'm ugly, boys say i'm dirt. Boys say things & expect them not to hurt. Next time you say it remember how i feel...to you it might be a joke, but to me its a BIG deal." i don't think it does..but they do..i can't stand this!!! these are only two people.... and they keep wondering what another one of my friends keep saying and acting like..i can't stand that either...they just won't leave me alone about it! and the friend they are trying to figure things out about is just saying her world is falling apart because of what some immature boys are saying...

I hate it..i am going to go insane!! some of my friends seem made at me..i don't know why..they just do i couldn't do something and it was the real reason why and they seem mad at me..also cause i don't like someone they want me to like...i mean...i like someone but my friend is trying to make me like someone else...i don't mind it but they seem mad at that too...and the person she is trying to get me to like keeps saying that i hate him..but i don't..and everything is twirling around in circles...i was also a messenger for two of them...and that was getting kinda annoying! and that one friend isn't talking to me..and i know she is mad at me..i know it...just because i don't like someone. (i don't know if that is the reason but i know she is)

Sorry about this..but my head can't handle this...i am just going to break down and cry its so freaken messed up...i am going insane and crying because my world is falling apart! i feel stupid and everything so if you can please do as soon as possible!!


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XxAmy2005xX
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Hi, I have also gone through something similar to what you are describing. My friends would constantly talk behind each other's back, and mine. Then they would say..what did she say about me.. it was a whole she said he said thing. I ended up trying to talk it out..it was between me and my 3 best friends. Talking it out did not work, so I ended up ditching all of them.

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Maryha
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First of all, it's obvious you don't enjoy being "the messenger" so TELL THEM THAT. Tell them that if they want to tell someone else something they shouldn't send you to do it for them. That is not your job or responsibility, and if they blame you for being a bad friend, they are immature and foolish in that they can't even talk something out between the people most concerned.
Secondly, if these people are so obviously playing games and messing with your head and making you feel horrible they aren't the best of friends, are they? Have you told them how all of their comments about you hating boys make you feel? Tell them if you haven't, and tell them if you don't want them manipulating your love life.
Friendships can get complex and difficult at times, but they should not be a constant source of pain. If these people are constantly taking advantage of you and hurting your feelings and you always feel enmity between them then maybe it is time to reassess your friendships. This can be hard, but sometimes it's a lot easier than trying to change people who aren't willing. Good luck.

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