*sigh* ok as you know my friend tried to hook me up w/ one of her friends... well yesterday...he emailed me telling me that he liked me and i was the sweetest most beautiful girl he has ever seen...and that he would ask me out but since i can't date he didn't want to get in trouble w/ my parents...i sort of like him though..i mean he has been kinda annoying on the internet...but he is really nice, this is sorta why i feel guilty...when we went to the movies (of course w/ my friend and her b/f) we didn't talk but i was being kinda judgemental of how he looks...i mean he had a hat on so i couldn't really see his face..but i know he has piercings and i really and am not into that so thats one reason i didn't like him that much..what do ido..i feel bad :-( i really do...what do i do?
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It sounds to me as if you don't really want to think of this guy as boyfriend or someone you'd like to date. Sit down and try and work out how you really feel about him. There's no use lying to him or unintentionally leading him on, so if you aren't interested it's best to let him know right away. Figure out how you feel about this guy and take it from there.
------------------ 'You've got the eyes of ten women. Not in a jar! I wasn't accusing you. I just mean your eyes are really nice'-coupling
Well it sounds like he didn't make as good an impression on you, as you did on him. It's okay to not be physically attracted to another person, that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him OR that there is anything wrong with you.
Perhaps you feel guilty because you don't think you gave him a fair chance because of his piercings or his internet appearance. If that's the case maybe you ought to just try harder in the future not to do that. You're human, people do this sort of thing.
Besides, you're not going to like every person you meet. As long as you're not rude you don' tneed to feel guilty.
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