I have a guy friend that i fool around with. We really like each other. He tells me the more he's with me the more he likes me. My problem is that we don't really go together. I want to be with him but he told me months ago that he didn't want to be in a relationship at the time bcuz he just got out of 1 or 2. I was okay w/ that but now I am starting to feel more for him than I did b4. I wanna b w/him. WHat should i do? He even treats me like his girlfriend!
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Honestly, sweetie, if he says he's not ready to be in a "defined" relationship, then there isn't much that you can do. A relationship is a two-sided thing, and both you and your partner have to be willing to be in that relationship.
The best thing that you can do is communicate your feelings, openly, honestly, and privately. Tell him that you truly want to be involved with him in a way that's a little more structured than "friends with bennifits." They key, though, is communication.
Just talk it out. It's really a painless exercise.
Oh, and just as a side note: In the future, do you think that you could try to post in standard English. Remember that most of our userbase doesn't necessarily speak English as their first language, and throwing in words and phrases like "bcuz" and "b4" make it a little more complicated for everyone to read. It would really help out if you could just try to use standard English. Thanks.
well shanno, you said that your guy friend told you months ago he didn't want to be in a serious relationship. Now, while this might not be the case, things can change in a few months, they obviously did for you. You might be pleasantly surprised to find he's feeling the same way you are. The best course of action is to see where he's coming from, and if it works out great! And if not, there are other, more available guys out there too.
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