OK.... my bf is the sweetest thing ever that's why I was so shocked and taken aback by what happened just now. Well, my bf and I have been apart for a few days while I came home for awhile, which is only 2 hrs away from where I live. He has AOL, but I use the internet conncection at school and don't have AOL so he offered me to use his AOL by giving me his password while I'm at my house and not in school. I was just about to go to bed, but decided to check my email first. And b/c he called me to say "goodnite" like he always does about an hr earliar, I thought it'd be a good time to log on. If you don't know if you log on, and someone w/ the same screename etc. is already logged on the orginal person who was "on" gets kicked "off" and the new person gets "on". Apparently I kicked him off while he was talking to some girl b/c as soon as I got "on" an IM popped up. So, I asked the girl about the situation, and explained how I'm his gf, I must have kicked him off etc. etc. She told me he IMed her when she and he were in a chat room together and told her she had a sexy name and asked her what she was wearing. I was very MAD. But mostly hurt. My bf has a very high sex drive (a little higher than mine really) and I know he watches porn while we're not together... but PC sex? That's w/ a real person. That's personal interaction w/ another woman!!!! It really hurt my feelings. He's such a sex fiend, we've even had phone sex before. I would have been happy to fulfill such a need if he had asked, or initiated it. But instead he turned to some other woman w/ a "sexy name" instead. Do I have a right to feel betrayed, violeted, or hurt?
Posts: 62 | From: Raleigh, NC, USA | Registered: Mar 2001
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Definately talk to him about it. Some people dont realize that internet sex can be the same thing as cheating with someone in the flesh. It does have a connection even if it isnt physically. But he may not realize it. So before you go crazy on him tlak to him about it first. To him this may just seem like an interactive sex story or something. And also let him know that if he really needs to get off and he wants something besides just his hand that he can call you and ask for it. Afterall honestly and ocmmuntication are the most important things in a relationship.
Posts: 523 | From: Ashland, Oregon, US | Registered: Jun 2000
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A high sex drive justifies nothing! I'd say you have the right to do some rather nasty things to his softwasre, but that's my vengeful geek side talking, and probably best to ignore. Really, though, I think you need to talk to this dude, let him know that cheating, especially cheating using loopholes, is something you find despicable, and will not tolerate, and keep your eyes open.
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