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4.exe
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i have a question for all of us.
What is more important in the decision for you? morality or "instincts"
For example, if you have somebody that you like very much, he/she kissed you, you want to kiss him(because it justs feels good) but you think it´s wrong to kiss somebody you don´t are "in love with". Do u think you must repress yourself or try to finish the morals that stop what you really basically want for? :?
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LilBlueSmurf
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Very interesting

I would go for the moral part. I need to know that what i'm doing is right ... rather than just due to hormones.


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Pixie69
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Aww but sometimes you just want horomones! Most of the time I'd say I'd want it to be more than just a kiss, I'd want it to be about love or like or care or something like that, and not about horomone levels. But sometimes you just have to go for it and it's just GOOD, even if it was just lust, and even if it was something as simple as a kiss.

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Lucky1402
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I would stick to my morals. No matter how raging my hormones were. *hehe* I've always put my morals before anything else in most of my decisions.

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glitter695
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I'd say morals also, I dont feel like regreting it in the future.

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Lin
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I would say morals but that would be a lie.

The reason I say that is because I realise now that alot of the morals and values I hold through actually are not my own. They are my parents', my friend's, my religion's etc.

So I would go with my instincts. If it feels right to me, it has to be right. I had sex with my bf against my "morals" only to realise that hey, they weren't even mine to begin with.

And for me, my morals and instinct go hand-in-hand. I would never kiss another guy (example) so if I was faced with that situation, instinctively I would think it was wrong and I wouldn't do it.

Makes sense? This is one long post for an answer which should only be a few words long.


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glitter695
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Lin I deleted the double post for ya!!

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Heather
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Actually, I've generally found that my instincts and my ethics don't oppose one another very often, so it isn't an either/or situation at all, but a very comfortable union. And the older I get, and the more I grow into who I am, the more that seems to be the case.

So, I very rarely have had to make those sorts of choices, and on some level, I think that ifd you DO find they oppose one another a lot, it may be worth thinking about your ideas of personal morality and ethics -- ultimately, your ethics should fit who you ware, and a lot of the time, if you have simply taken on someone else's system of ethics or molarity, rather that creating what works best for you, it can be like trying to walk in shoes that don't fit.

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Mack
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I'd say i go with morals. Then again I'm the last one of my kind. The Kind that does not thing below the waist.
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Heather
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Let's please be sure in this discussion not to prpegate the idea that anything having to do with peoples genitals is a) immoral or b) necessarily sexual.

Because we can thank that arcane attitude for such lovely things as the idea that women are filthy or impure because they menstruate, that masturbating is the worlds greatest sin, and that sex is dirty, no matter how you do it.

Plus, you don't need the help of your genitals to act unethically. You can do that in a multitude of ways, and people who do are not sexually active in any way, shape or form are not free from unethical behaviour.

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Plus, my legs and my feet and my toes and ankles and knees are below my waist, and I've certainly done things with those body parts that aren't sexual!
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Stick with your morals. Exercise self-control and when the time is right, it will be rewarding.

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CallMeBuffChick
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Well if I was dating someone, I'd stick with morals.

But when I'm not, sometimes I just can't help myself. I do stop before it gets too out of hand. I just sticking with kissing when it comes to someone who I don't "love." I just love kissing. If I could, I'd kiss everyone!

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