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I've had a particular problem with girls lately.
A girl shows an interest, but before it really goes anywhere she starts make contact less and less and i've actually completely lost touch with 2 girls. This has happened with 6 consecutive girls now and I've got no clue what's going on.
It's happened at the same point each time and there's nothing i can think of to explain it.

And still the beds are burning, burning in our sleep.
Take me away from everything I see.

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I guess we need a little more information.

Are these romantic interests we're talking about? Or just friend interests? Do you tend to be someone who moves quickly into a relationship, or likes to take things more slowly? Are you looking for a relationship right now, or are these occurences simply happening with girls you meet and have no interest in dating?

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If you are talking about 'romantic' or 'dating' circumstances..

it may be the fact that you are freaking them out a little. I mean, not that you may intentially be doing it, but you may say or do something that kind of, in a sense, scares them away.
.. I say this because it has happened to me before.

It may also be that the girls friends may be discouraging the relationship between you two; Ive seen this happen, too.

Or who knows, it could just be because the girl(s) lost interest. Maybe you two spent a little too much/little time together.. overcrowding.. jealousy..

you know.

maybe you should give the girls some space..
dont take things to fast..
and if you knows the girls get freaked out easily by 'perverted' jokes or whatnot, avoid saying them until the relationship develops to where you are both comfortable talking about it.

if its a friend-based relationship that you are losing these girls..
I really dont know why; sorry.

goodluck, though.
but Im sure the right girl with roll around one of these days.

Young and Dumb.
"Life is a balance of holding on and letting go." - Keith Urban

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Actually, if you find that this seems to always happen in similar situations, it might help of you asked some of those girls if they could tell you what it was that you did. Might be that you are unintentionally doing something, and if so, the girls involved would be the only ones who can tell you what it is. If you ask them politely to explain to you what happened, so you can learn from this and avoid it in the future, then I'm sure they'll be willing to talk to you about it.

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