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Hey.
ok, here is my problem, It may be kinda stupid comin from a guy.. but here goes.. This girl and I have been talking for about 6 months now. It was just small talk innocent flirting and stuff. She really liked me alot... I mean, It was ALOT. I liked her, but there was other people too..this girl was about two years younger than me so I was too full of pride to actually "be" with her.. recently I have came VERY close to getting with the other people I had intrest in.. but something inside wouldnt let me do it.. I realized that this girl that I had liked from the beginning was the one that was really who I wanted, she was always there, listining, caring.. you name it. about a week ago, we kissed, I loved it.. but the next day. she is so cold to me, and now just says she dont want anything with me. she knows how I feel about her, and for so long it was exactaly what she wanted.. It hurts so much now.. I miss her.... I miss the way things were... what do I do??? PLease?
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Mark~

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KittenGoddess
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Talk to her! Tell her the things that you've said here, explain your feelings and tell her the truth about why you wouldn't be with her before. Talk about these things and find out what's really going on inside her head.

~KittenGoddess

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I don't know why she did that. She sounds like a total flake.

If you can get her to talk to you, ask her why she's being so immature and mean (don't use those words ). She might not be ready for a relationship, and the kiss kind of scared her off a little. Or maybe she feels vunerable, and she's being bitchy so she doesn't get hurt by you. Whatever her reason is, talk it out with her and assure her that you really like her and you want a relationship (not just a fling).

But if she won't talk to you, forget her. She can't handle a relationship, and she doesn't deserve you.

Good Luck.

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Or maybe she realised that you were too proud to be with her.

Just talk to her.None of us can tell you why she is acting this way. So just give her a call and ask her why there seems to have been a sudden change in her attitude towards you.

And the next time you meet a girl you really like, don't let pride stand in the way of getting to know her better. Gd luck.


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that really hurts.



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hey everyone, thank you so much for the advice.. I have thought about it, and I sorta have something in mind.. you see, I am an actor, and currently I am doing 'Grease' It just so happens that she is playing oppsite of me (she's my sweetheart in the show) Its really hard to work with her underneath all that is goin on. tonight, between scenes, I went up to her and started talking, she really didnt seem to care, short answers, weird looks you know?... The next show is Thursday night, so I have planned to tell her the director needs us to work on a few songs about an hour before people come in... I will have a table, a candle lit, and a small teddy bear or some little gift center stage, and I have arranged to have the pit to play some love songs gently underneath me trying to talk to her.. bad Idea or good? Please tell me what you think.
Thanks again,
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hey everyone, thank you so much for the advice.. I have thought about it, and I sorta have something in mind.. you see, I am an actor, and currently I am doing 'Grease' It just so happens that she is playing oppsite of me (she's my sweetheart in the show) Its really hard to work with her underneath all that is goin on. tonight, between scenes, I went up to her and started talking, she really didnt seem to care, short answers, weird looks you know?... The next show is Thursday night, so I have planned to tell her the director needs us to work on a few songs about an hour before people come in... I will have a table, a candle lit, and a small teddy bear or some little gift center stage, and I have arranged to have the pit to play some love songs gently underneath me trying to talk to her.. bad Idea or good? Please tell me what you think.
Thanks again,
mark
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Well, personal opinion here...but it could either be really good, or really bad. Perhaps doing this right before your show would not be the best idea, it could change your on-stage chemistry. Especially if she's not open to what you have to say, that could seriously affect your performance, could make things very awkward. I guess if you're going to do it, you better be 110% sure she's going to react well, otherwise, I'd reconsider it. But then that's just my feeling.

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hey, well yeah I guess I should have said that we are still in rehearsals, we dont open the show for another 4 weeks... sooo?
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from the girls pov...maybe she really does/did like you but there was always the unreachableness of you and once she finally had you there wasn't a challenge any longer, or she's afraid of losing you. just talk to her and tell her how you feel...dont get over board though cos you could scare her.

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