He "wasn't going to look for other women?"
HELLO! He doesn't HAVE to -- he's married!
Sugarplum, come on. There's a word for people who are in marriages that are over: divorced. Anything else means he's still in it, period. If they didn't want to be with him anymore, they wouldn't be, and he'd have the papers to prove it.
Why trust him? He's obviously not trustworthy nor does he take his comittments seriously, this potential OTHER relationship with your friend aside. Someone this creepy and crappy isn't worth your life -- he isn't even worth giving the time of day to. You dererve better: anyone does.
And any of our lives are worth more than any given relationship: that isn't all we're here for. What a waste of viscera it would be if all we existed for was to be someone elses doormat.
Get smart: pull yourself up by the bootstraps and move on.
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