Does a woman's eyes tell you when they're interested in you or not ?
I have seen a few women on-campus college glance at me and then look away. Sometimes in classes some of them look at me when I'm not looking at them but manage to catch my luck by wandering my eyes around the entire class. And all of a sudden they're staring and then glance away.
Let's try some gender-neutral language, because again, women are not another species: "Can you tell if someone likes you from the way they look at you?"
No. And to be honest, I've seem more people embarass themselves by assuming that a look was "the look of love" than I can count on all of my digits.
Obviously, there are subtle ways anyone "signals" that they like someone. However, since we aren't orangutans with very specific signals like waving foliage at someone, and since we all vary from culture to culture and person to person, there isn't a map of what those signals are for every human being.
Thing is, if you want to talk to someone, talk to someone. If they want to talk to you, they'll talk back. What sort of relationship you or they are interested in will develop over time as you learn to comfortably communicate with one another and as you DO learn what each unique person's unique signals mean.
And you have to use more than eyes to do that. You have to use words.
Miz S is right, there is not one signal that means, "Hey, I like you, wanna go get a smoothie?" Although this whole foliage waving idea may have some merit...I might just start carrying around a large leaf of lettus around campus and wave it when I want attention, see what kind of response I get. That could be interesting.
Anyway, signals mean different things from person to person. And also, if you're sitting in class and somebody is staring at you, they may just be bored out of their mind, and you're head may just happen to be where their eyes have landed. I've done that a few times myself...especially during EECE (nasty class, let me just tell you!).
------------------ "Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell." ~Joan Crawford
[This message has been edited by KittenGoddess (edited 01-26-2001).]
I look at guys I like and smile all of the time. Its a great sign that girls are looking at you...it shows there interest. Next time, try to catch her gaze and hold it. (Don't stare, just smile) Good luck
------------------ "Girl you can pick a field full of daisies...but he'd still be my baby!" ~Dream
Honestly, if I ONLY look at someone -- of whatever gender -- it's usually a pretty good sign that I am NOT interested. If I am interested, I'll go up and say something, or respond enthusiastically if the person says something to me.
But a glance alone really doesn't mean anything... coming from me, it's more likely to mean "who the hell is that person and why does he/she look like someone I used to know in high school and if it is that person, what on earth are they doing HERE?"
I look at guys sometimes just because I'm shocked at how much gel is in their hair, or because I'm sick of staring at the bus ads. My eyes do need to go somewhere.
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