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I'm starting to worry here! The guy I've been seeing for about a month seems to have totally disappeared from the planet. He told me Monday night after we went out that he'd try to call from his soccer game on Tuesday, though I wasn't expecting that too much because he's pretty serious about sports. Now it's Saturday and I still haven't heard from him. I called him up Thursday, but the phone just rang. He doesn't have an answering machine, nor does he have caller-ID. I tried again Friday and also Saturday, yet no one picked up the phone. The guy comes from a large family and there's almost always someone there to answer the phone, even if it's just a parent or a brother. The first thing my friends said when I told them that I had called and gotten no answer over several days was "is he avoiding you?". Besides the fact that he has no reason to avoid me (he wasn't acting strangely at all when I saw him last), he also doesn't have any way of knowing who's calling him since he doesn't have caller-ID.
He and I usually meet up after his hockey practice on Saturday nights, just kind of informally (he's nearly always there to play, and I usually am in the area and will stop by). He wasn't even at practice tonight, which is pretty unusual. My question is this...what should I do? It doesn't seem to be a matter of him just not calling me back (I would assume that was the case if I had been leaving messages with his brothers to have him call me). We don't go to the same school, so I won't just randomly run into him.
Any advice would be nice right now to help me calm down a bit. One friend told me that I have reason to be worried, and another told me the exact opposite. Thanks in advance =)
-Laurie-
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Maybe there was a family emergency. If not, leave a little note at his house or try calling at a later time. If he really is trying to avoid you, he can't hide forever. Wait a day or so, see what happens. Maybe something unexpectant came up.
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hey Lintu, i don't think he's avoiding u.. u should just cool down.. go and knock on his door, see who comes out.. .. or go to his scoccer game and see if he's there Posts: 102 | From: Australia | Registered: Aug 2000
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Okay girl. Relax. Don't get so worked up without knowing the facts first.
I say do what SLowCookie and ash said. Just go down to his place and see what happens. If no one is around, leave a note under the door or in the mailbox.
If he really is avoiding you, I say you are better off without some guy who doesn't even have the decency to tell you he wants to cool ff your relationship.
But in the meantime, don't worry yourself silly without finding out what's going on.
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I can't just go to his house...he lives about 50 minutes from me. The rink where he practices is our midpoint, about 20-25 minutes away from him and about 30 from me.
I don't think he's avoiding me because no one at all is picking up the phone. Even if he's out of town, this is weird, because he even called me from Orlando.
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Unfortunately, we don't have close mutual friends. His best friend was also on our hockey team last year, but I don't know him well at all (nor do I have his phone number). I know people who know him, (other former teammates) but no one from his school. Basically I'm not friends with anyone who talks to him on the phone on a regular basis.
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Ah well I called his house today and finally someone picked up!! It was his brother, who said my guy wasn't home...so I left a message for him to call me. I'll definitely give him a chance to explain, but I've gotta let him know (without being too nagging or annoying) that he really worried the you-know-what outta me!
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Sounds like things between me and my boy lately! Right now I have noooo clue where he is......I'm only partially worried at this point, but he always tells me ahead of time when he will be super busy. That helps.
Anyhow, he may just be honestly busy. Or he might be avoiding you. Maybe he just wanted some time to himself. At least you got in touch with someone, now you just need to get a hold of him. When you do tell him how worried you were and that next time he gets caught up doing other things, to give you a good warning ahead of time. I'm pretty sure he won't find you annoying for being worried about his whereabouts and whether or not he still cares for you, be honest with him about it. And as hard as it is, try not to get too worked up about it. Hope everything turns out okay.
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.. or go to his scoccer game and see if he's there
Hope everything turns out okay. 
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