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It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. This is a popular saying. What's your take on it? Would you rather have had some amazing relationship and suffered the fall at the end; or, would you rather have never had the love in the first place?

[ 12-12-2009, 06:20 PM: Message edited by: Alice ]

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Yes, hands down, and way more than once. [Smile]

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I agree with Heather! No matter how it turns out, love is worth the experience [Big Grin] Even if you get hurt in the end, there are still so many thing to learn from it and to enjoy about it. And everyone has lots of love to go around. So why not share it?
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I agree, too! [Smile]

I find that it's also a good way for me to tell if a relationship is worth it or not. I can ask myself, "If it were to end tomorrow, would I be glad to have known this person and had this connection for as long as we did, be it a day, a year or a lifetime." I think Scarleteen does a really good job of both being positive about relationships (be it something sexual/romantic/platonic/etc.) while also being honest about transiency (although most people posting in the relationship section are writing about challenges, which is understandable for the venue.)

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Oh, absolutely yes! [Smile]

And this is something I have been thinking about a lot recently, as my 5-year-relationship ended earlier this year. It has been painful to deal with, but I have never wished that it had not happened at all. I have learned so much from this relationship, and there have been so many good moments, that I feel without a doubt that it was worth it.

And I really feel this way about every single relationship/friendship/connection that meant anything at all to me. There is always something to take away from it, so my life is richer for it and I am glad to have experienced it, even if it had to end.

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