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Mophead
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Hi all,

So things with my mom's husband are getting pretty bad and I think that keeping records, if nothing else, would be helpful to me. In case he ever actually took a swing at one of us it would be good to have some records of the constant abuse.

Do you know of any sheets I could find online to print and fill out? I'm thinking of checklists of abusive behaviours, space for date, time, victim impact, other relevant things that I can't think of, and a place to write notes? If not, can you think of what I could put on a worksheet to print for myself? I know that the actual notes would have to be in pen to be legally relevant.

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Mophead
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Right now for example: cursing and grumbling about something that he feels was left out of place. I can hear him. He's not far. Soon the name-calling will start.
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Mophead
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This is what I've got so far (most of it is borrowed from a workplace incident report form):

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Abuse report template


Name of person completing the form:

Date of incident : Time: am/pm

Location of incident:

What was taking place when the incident occurred?

Other persons present at the time:

Name of perpetrator


Description of incident:
Were any injuries sustained? Y / N

If yes, Name of injured person:
Details of injuries:

Was any property or equipment damaged? Y / N

If yes, details of damage:
What was the trigger of the incident?
Were any warning signs evident prior to the incident? Y / N

If so, list them: What action was taken, if any, to try and address the situation prior to the incident occurring?

Signed: _______________________________

Date: _______________


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Robin Lee
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It looks like that just about covers it, and then some. I'd say the most important bits for your situation are the date, the duration, who was involved and what happened.

I'm sorry to hear you're living with such nasty, abusive behaviour.

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Robin

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