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NewRomantic
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About a month ago i told my parents i was moving out, my dad jumped to all conclusions to why i was leaving home like drugs and **** like that which i told both of them i just wanted my freedom and be with my girlfriend. My dad then jumped to further conclusions but in the end let it go, or so i thought.
i went home the other day and noticed bruising on my mums arm and round her wrists when i asked her she just ignored me and carried on the conversation, but when my dad came home she went very quiet and jumpy.
my dad has always been unpredictable but i didnt think he'd do any thing like that.
if he is abusing my mum what do i do

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Heather
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Is there any history of this in your family before now, Zach? When you say your dad is unpredictable, what do you mean?

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he used to disappear,he'd be fine and then the littlest thing would make him snap and hes constantly paranoid.

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Heather
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Has your father ever been diagnosed with any sort of mental illness? Sounds to me like that's a possibility.

All the same, I'd try and talk to your mother again in the next few days: see if you can't suss out what happened. If it's made clear, or you strongly suspect, she's being abused, then the thing to do would be to contact your local family services branch for help.

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NewRomantic
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I dunno
i hardly talk to him
but hes on some sort of anti depressant

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I went back home today to see how my mum was and there was more bruising up her arms and like grip marks on her hands. When i asked her again she said it was nothing and i shouldnt worry about it but how can i not! I dunno what i should do im worried if i report this to any one he'll hurt my mum even more, that is if he is. Theres no reason why i shouldnt beleive what she's saying but i dont, My mums also asked me to move back home when ever im there my dad doesnt touch her or look at her. If i go back will it make this stop or make things worse.

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Zach, I would suggest talking to an adult friend and get their "hypothetical" advice. Put it as a friend of yours is going through this. If that's not possible, talk to your mom, even if its just "I Love You Mom". My heart goes out to you, be strong, and I hope you find the courage to find the answers you're looking for.

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