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maroonmoon
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A few months back, my boyfriend told me that he had been sexually abused a as a child...by another boy. We didn't get to discuss it for very long. He kinda said it out of the blue. Sometimes I'd like to ask him questions like why he never told anyone (while it was going on) and how long it lasted and what exactly hapenned. Years? But I would feel terrible it I brought up this awfully painful subject unnecessarily. Should I bring it up?
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babydoll86
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if you were to bring it up-- bring it up lightly. lightly meaning... "remember when you told me about you being abused, that hurts me and i was wondering if you would wanna talk about it" and if he declines tell him that you are there for him and open to anyhting he has to say. BE SUPPORTIVE! i'm really sorry this has to happen to ya. you should do fine.
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maroonmoon
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Maybe I shouldn't ask about it. Answers to my questions wouldn't improve our relationship (not that it needs anything improved) but it could hurt him...making him think about those bad times. It could possibly bring us closer together, sharing a secret like that. But I don't feel that's more important than his happiness. I can be happy either way.
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