Hi, I am a bit embarrassed to be telling this...I am going to be 23 and have never done anything....make out, sex....
I have had lots of crazy family problems since very young and honestly have been just trying to survive ...no time or energy to fun and relationships. Now I am trying to balance out my life and I feel so insecure about this part of my life. I feel so unattractive just because I have no experience and this is so rare and strange these days. I have NO idea what to do when it comes to sex or even making out. What do I do? I am such a literal person, I feel I need a step by step guide. I know the science/anatomy of it....but the rest I have no clue.
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There is no reason to be embarrassed about this. You are by far not the only person who, at 23, has never been with anyone. I know that it can often seem like the whole world is having sex, but that's not actually true. You are not an oddity, and having no sexual experience does not make you unattractive.
Now, a for a step-by-step guide, that's not something that we can provide for you. Sex is soooo individual that there is just no way we can boil it down to a one-size-fits-all approach. But the good news is that this means that everyone has to figure things out for themselves. And that's also not something that we do once and then we're all set for the rest of our lives. We learn all over again each time we have a new partner, we learn all over as we grow older and change and develop. It's an on-going process that we're all always engaged in.
So I get that this can seem really overwhelming, but there's no reason to be freaked out, okay? Just take your time, listen to yourself, and go at your own pace.
-------------------- Johanna Scarleteen Volunteer
"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 9192 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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