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mcguiree1495
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So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and have been active for most of that time period. It seems that I have a problem or complication of actually orgasming during the process.. The only way I can is when his tongue hits a certain spot.... But I hardly get it that way anymore because he complains his jaw hurts or he just "forgets" after he finishes. When we are in positions though there will be times where I'll start to really enjoy it but hell finish the second I start to get into it.... Any suggestions that we can try? Or answers as to why I can't orgasm during the actual intercourse?

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skiesofgreen
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You know this is a question that I've seen come up a lot at scarleteen and it might be helpful to get started by taking a look at this article:

The Great No-Orgasm-From-Intercourse Conundrum

As you'll see in that article it's actually very common (as in experienced by the majority of women) to not orgasm during intercourse. Which, as you'll also see in the article, has to do with where the majority of women's sensory nerve endings are located.

So if orgasm is something you'd like to achieve chances are, as you've already experienced, experimenting with different types of stimulation, usually including clitoral stimulation is what you'll want to be trying to incorporate.

That said, orgasm doesn't always have to be the end goal of sex and just like having an orgasm doesn't guarantee satisfaction not having an orgasm doesn't guarantee a lack there of.

So are you feeling like the sex you're having right now is satisfying and something you're enjoying?

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mcguiree1495
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Yes, I enjoy it, but I guess what I'm trying to get at is enjoying more on that level like my boyfriend does. Because like I said, he's always the first one to "get off" on it, and I'm just like "Okay, that was good." I guess I'm just looking for a "thrill"/going up a level, than I'm on right now.

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skiesofgreen
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So what I'm hearing from you is that while you're enjoying sex right now it's not as enjoyable for you as it could be, is that right?

If so are there some things in your sex life (either with your boyfriend or on your own) that DO really get you going and that you find give you the level of satisfaction you're looking for?

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