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Hi. I am a heterosexual male and I am posting here because because I have a strange issue issue regarding getting and maintaining erections and ejaculating. The issue is, when I am giving my girlfriend cunnilingus, I have an erection and always ejaculate and have powerful orgasms. However, when I tried to do vaginal intercourse or fellatio with her, I always lose my erection and cannot ejaculate. The reason is that I am incredibly aroused when giving cunnilingus, but vaginal sex and fellatio do not really get me excited sexually. Therefore, my girlfriend and I stick to cunnilingus, and we are both sexually satisfied. However, isn't it strange I, a male, need to give cunnilingus to experience ejaculation and orgasm? Has anyone else ever dealt with anything like this?
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Patricia H
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It's strange if you compare yourself to socially accepted ideas of what a heterosexual male should and shouldn't be sexually satisfied with, as dictated by movies, TV, magazines, newspapers; or even by your friends, peers, and family. It's not so strange, or even a big deal, if you don't take society into account, and instead focus on the fact that individuals are simply different and get off on different things. And that is a wonderful thing. [Smile]

Nolite te bastardes carborundorum. - Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid's Tale

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I know there's nothing wrong with a male needing cunnilingus to be sexually satisfied. I just wanted to know if anyone has heard of what I am experiencing (ie needing to perform cunnilingus to ejaculate), or where I can talk to people sharing similar experiences.
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I'm not sure that there's a sexual activity I have heard of where someone has not found that it's the one their sexual enjoyment, ability to get aroused, or ability orgasm hinges on.

So, yes, this isn't the first time I've heard this.

per where to talk to people who are the same way, I don't know of anywhere specific to direct you with this, just like I wouldn't with any other sexual activity.

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