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Uber_Jess
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So me and my bf met up to have sex, but he couldn't get an erection. He told me it was just nerves, but this has never happened before, so I wonder if it is me. He still ate me out, and that was amazing, and he said he really wanted to have sex, but just couldn't get hard. I hope this is really just me being insecure and not anything more.
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Robin Lee
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Hi uber_Jess,

It's going to happen sometimes that people with penises don't get errections when they expect or want to, or that their erections go away when they don't expect or want them to.

There's a trope out there that folks with penises are always going to be into sex, always going to get and keep an erection when they want to, and that's just not so.

Sometimes a person's body just isn't quite in the mood, whether it's stress, or nerves, or fatigue, or some other reason.

I imagine there have been times when you weren't quite up for sex, or not quite up for certain sexual activities? If so, it's the same deal with your boyfriend.

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Uber_Jess
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Thanks for the reassurance. I figured it was something like that.
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Robin Lee
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You're welcome.

Remember too that sex isn't dependent on just one body part. All sexual activities are sex. [Smile]

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