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Mimiko
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Hello scarleteen! so here is my story,

I went with my cousin on an outing, with her uncle and family, and I kinda have a sleep paranoia whereas I think that men can enter the room and like abuse me (have sex) while i'm sleeping and I've woken up with my lower part hurting but It went away 30 minutes after waking up

so just to shut myself up, I decided to ask you guys [Smile]

Is it like possible to not wake up when somebody tries to take advantage of you?

and if it is likely, how will you know, I mean, if your private part will hurt, for how long?

and on the discharge question,
I'm having this creamy, stretchy discharge after ovulation, is this normal and what may be the cause?

thank you scarleteen! [Smile]

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Robin Lee
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Hi Mimiko,

i'd first like to check in with you about whether this paranoia is new, or whether you've had it for a while. have you gotten any help with it from a counselor?

While I can't speak to every single possible situation and every person's experience and I can't say what did or didn't happen because I wasn't there, it would be unlikely for someone to sleep through any sort of prolonged physical contact, whether it was sexual in nature or not, unless they had taken any sort of medication that caused them to sleep more deeply than average sleep. in other words, I think it's likely that you'd wake up if something was happening to your body, particularly something as involved and invasive as someone violating your body.

When you say that your lower part was sore, i'm not really sure what you mean. Do you mean your genitals, or your abdomen, or your legs, or something else?

here's some information on discharges that should answer your last question. [Smile]

Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions

Get With the Flow: All About FAM

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Mimiko
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Hi Robin,

thanks!
I've had it for a while but my parents or anybody doesn't really know about it.

and the lower part is my genital, It went away quickly after peeing so do you think it's because of the pee?

thanks for answering [Smile]

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Robin Lee
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Sometimes when we have to urinate, that pressure can feel like pain.


How long is a while? That is, are we talking about weeks, months, years that you've had this fear?


if you've had these fears for a while, it sounds like it might be time to tell someone and get some help with them. What do you think? Do you have an adult, maybe a parent, or a doctor, or another relative, you feel comfortable confiding in?

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Mimiko
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6 months to be precise and no, I feel scared talking to them [Frown]

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Six months is a long time for a fear to hang on. Usually once it's been around that long, it really needs some professional help to help it release its hold on a person.

What scares you about asking someone for help? Who in your life would you be most likely to talk about things in general, even if you feel like you couldn't talk about this specifically?

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Mimiko
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well because my parents are really strict and I'm not scared of them, just afraid to open up to them. I can talk to a friend a few of them but I don't think I'm ready to share it with anyone I know, I kind of prefer to share it with someone that I don't know

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Hi Mimiko,

It sounds like you're still having this fear.

Do you have a doctor or other healthcare provider you see regularly? If so, what do you think about talking to them about this? You'd be talking to someone who doesn't know you very well, and someone who could help you find some counseling.

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