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lizzylala17
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My mom randomly told me she'd set up an appointment with my pediatrician tomorrow (I'm still 17, don't turn 18 for a few months) because she's worried I have cysts on my ovaries. I've had heavy, painful, and irregular periods and gained a little weight. I don't mind seeing the doctor, but I've recently become sexually active. My mom doesn't know and I don't want her to, but what if the doctor asks me? I think it's just a consultation and they aren't going to poke and probe around down there, but I'm sure my mom will be in the office with me.I'm worried to lie to my doctor, but I'm terrified to tell my mom I'm having sex. Please help!
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If you don't want your mother in the exam room with you, it's perfectly okay to ask that she not be there (and the doctor should back you up on that). Even though you're not 18 yet, you're plenty old enough to make those decisions about your health care, and your doctor shouldn't be sharing information about your health with your mother unless you agree to that.

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So even though I'm under 18, if the doctor examines me and suspects I'm sexually active, she can't tell my mom?
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No, and you can specifically talk to them about that to make sure.

But....the doctor isn't going to be able to tell whether you've engaged in any sort of sexual activity, let alone what you've done, by examining you. The only way they'll know is if you tell them.

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Really? I thought they could tell by....well, I guess poking around in your nether regions! I still want to be truthful if she asks, but what would sex have to do with ovarian cysts? Sorry for all the questions!
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No, they really can't tell. There's nothing about sex of any kind that changes genitals in one specific way.

The only way a healthcare provider can sometimes tell if a person has engaged in sexual activities involving the genitals is if they examine that person a few hours after the sexual activity. Then they might see redness or swelling which might indicate sexual activity.

Sexual activity doesn't have much, if anything, to do with ovarian cysts (unless you were, say, trying to conceive and investigating reasons that you couldn't, or investigating why you were having pain during sexual activity) but it's important for a healthcare provider to know if you're sexually active with a partner so they can give you the healthcare most suited to your needs.

In fact, it's sound for all people who start engaging in partnered sexual activity to talk with their healthcare provider and start getting sexual healthcare (which might include birth control, pelvic exams, STI tests, any or all of the above).

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