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Kaylabear00
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Hi everyone, okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I'd say we have a healthy sex life. I'm on birth control and he always wears a condom just to make sure we're super safe from any unplanned accidents. Anyways briefly during and then after we have sex I always have some mild discomfort in my lower stomach (about an inch or so beneath my belly button). It's nothing severe but it is a tad bothersome, it almost feels like when he was thrusting he was hitting a wall inside me and it's just kinda like an aching pain that goes away after about 20 minutes. He's not rough with me at all he's super gentle so I'm not sure as to why I get that nagging pain. Does anyone have an idea to what this is? [Confused]
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Heather
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Are you ever reaching orgasm during any of this sex?

If not, then likely what you're feeling is something called vasocongestion: what guys will sometimes call "blue balls," though it's something that can and does happen to people of any gender.

In a nutshell, when we get sexually excited, blood pools to and around our genitals. When we reach orgasm, that blood goes back to the rest of our bodies pretty quickly. When we don't, it can take longer to do that, and sometimes that can cause some temporary pain or discomfort -- in the pelvic area on the whole -- usually for around 20 minutes to an hour.

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Kaylabear00
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This is gonna be totally tmi but I've had to stop during the middle of masturbating before when I was really turned on and I never got that pain inside, only when my boyfriend is thrusting me. It's almost like he's hitting too deep inside. Is that even possible? I
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Robin Lee
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So are you saying that you get the pain during intercourse, after it's finished, or both?

What you might be experiencing is sore muscles. Our abdominal muscles are connected to the pelvic muscles so impact in one area can affect another. You can think of it as something similar to the slight aching one can get after exercise.

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Kaylabear00
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It's towards the end of intercourse and then afterwards for a little while. Hmmm that actually makes a lot of sense I'm guessing that's what my problem is. Thank you so much for all your help!
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Robin Lee
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You're welcome. If you feel like your boyfriend's penis is going too deeply and causing you pain, the two of you can experiment with different positioning to see if that helps you at all.

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