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So I'm 17 (female) and have been with my boyfriend for three years. (Neither of us are or have been sexually active) We didn't really start getting physical until less than a year ago. I've told him I didn't want to have sex for awhile, though, and for many reasons.
But, I would like to know how I can go about getting what I need before my "sexual debut."
I plan on being very safe, with birth control and condoms. But I really have no way of getting them. I know it may sound silly to plan so far ahead, but I'm not planning on having sex until I'm at least in college. (so over a year) This may change, but there is really no safe way/place to go about doing this right now. I don't want to have my first time in a car.
I'm not too worried about the condoms. But I don't know about the birth control. When I'm on my own, I was planning on possibly making an appt up there and asking for a prescription. (If it's important, I'll be attending Morehead State Univ. in Kentucky) I don't know where I would make the appt though or how to do this. I want to be smart about this and make the right decisions. I also want to be discreet. I don't want my parents to know. Of course, by law, I will be an adult, so I shouldn't have much problem.

Can someone give me some advice? I suppose to sum it up, where is the best place to get affordable birth control? (Gyno, Doctor, Clinic, etc.) And I guess, advice on having safe sex discreetly? Thank you!

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HI SarahBug and welcome to Scarleteen,

By having sex, I think you mean engaging in intercourse. Other sexual activities are sex too. [Smile] For example, if you're currently engaging in oral sex, using condoms or dental dams is sound if either you or your boyfriend has engaged in any sexual activities with other people and you two haven't had STI tests.

To answer your questions about how to get birth control, most colleges and universities have campus health services. Many cities also have sexual health clinics. So, when you're away at college you'll certainly have lots of options.

If you're interested in exploring birth control now, you do have the option of finding a sexual health clinic in your area. If you have a family doctor you see, you could also talk to them about birth control. They shouldn't tell your parents what you discussed. In many places they're actually required not to, and you could certainly check with your provider to make sure that what you discuss is in confidence.
Would it be helpful to have more information on your birth control options?

Does this help?


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Thank you for your quick response. =)

This did help, and yes, neither of us have engaged in any form of sexual activity except with each other. We are both "virgins" in the vaginal intercourse sense.

And about my options, sure. Are there certain brands that are more reliable than others?

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Brand of what? There are lots of different types of birth control out there! This article should get you started exploring your options: Birth Control Bingo!

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