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Mouse Girl
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Hi,

I've scrolled back a few pages and not found an answer to this, but if somebody can link me to a good past thread, that would be hugely appreciated.

I'm twenty four, female, and I've never had an orgasm. I've also never had a partner, but I've been masturbating since I was a teenager (er, not continuously) - and I've been reaching the plateau stage, where I feel as though I'm right on the edge and my vision is hazy, for at least four years. I can't get beyond it, though. I usually only last about ten minutes, and I know that it takes most women longer than this to reach orgasm - but the high and the tension melt away and I get bored and my mind wanders, in very little time.

I know that sex isn't just about orgasm, and yes, I can certainly have fun; but honestly, I'd like to come. Has anybody else had this kind of block, and have you managed to get beyond it - preferably without the help of a partner?

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cool87
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Here, I found at least this post which you might be interested in taking a look at.


http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/im_late_to_the_game_have_i_had_an_orgasm_yet

There are other questions in there which you might actually find helpful as well so I'll give you the link if you want to check it out.


You might also want to have a look at this article if you haven't already:
Sexual response and orgasm: a user's guide

If you have any more questions after reading this you can always come back. [Smile]

[ 01-11-2008, 05:28 PM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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Heather
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One thing I might suggest is that even with yourself, you engage in more whole-body foreplay before you're going for any kind of genital sex.

In other words, if you can really push the envelope in turns of being as turned on as possible before any genital stimulation, you're likely to reach orgasm more quickly once you do start that. Make sense?

I'd also suggest getting your hands on Betty Dodson's book, "Sex for One." I think it might be a great help for you.

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Thanks, guys - I appreciate the advice :-)
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Hey, I came across a post that you posted back in 2008 about not being able to climax. I'm in a similar situation. I've never experienced an orgasm. In any way. I've tried everything but nothing has helped past the peak. I always get really turned and feel like I'm on the edge but never really get past that feeling. The sensation is gone in a matter of seconds. There are no fireworks and there is no pulsating or a heartbeat down there as they say. I'm starting lose hope and I'm in tears while I'm typing this because I have no idea what to do. I dont know what's wrong with me. I was wondering if you managed to climax and if so what worked for you. I'd really appreciate a reply. Being a woman I feel as if I'm robbed of a wonderful feeling that I'm entitled to. Thanks a lot!
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Heather
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Misstique: would you like to talk about this today? I'd be happy to talk about it with you.

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