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catlover1997
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I'm just curious as to what sex feels like after your first time, such as your 2nd and so on?? My boyfriend and I have only had sex once and we are planning on doing it sometime soon again, but I was just merely curious..what is it normally like? like, will i bleed during our 2nd time?? or?? [Smile] thanks!
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CSandSourpatch
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Short answer: it depends.

Long answer: it depends on a lot of things. Your readiness for sex, your level of arousal, how stressed you're feeling that day, if you've recently had a cold, if you get any period symptoms and it's that time for you... The list goes on.

I don't exactly have a huge sample size to compare to, because I've talked with only one other friend about her experiences, but ours were completely different. For me, it felt much like the first time, minus a little bit of the awkwardness about where limbs go. Since then, there have been times where it's been good, times where it's been amazing, and times where it's not been so good. Sex is not just a "this is how it's going to be for the rest of your life/the rest of the time you're with this person"--it changes. A LOT. What matters is that you want it and are enjoying what's going on, and the same goes for whoever you happen to be doing it with. That usually makes it feel pretty good, at any rate.

EDIT: As to bleeding, that also depends. Honestly, I've bled only once (not counting being on my period). It wasn't my first time, and it was because a little bit of rough fingering had given me a small abrasion. I've heard the most common cause of bleeding is abrasions of some sort from not having enough lube, so I can't stress this enough: have extra lube. Even if you don't think you'll need it, have it on hand, anyway.

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Robin Lee
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What any sexual activity feels like is such an individual experience that it's not really a question that can be answered. This applies whether it's someone's first time engaging in sexual activities, or their hundredth.

There's no way to predict, either, whether you'll experience bleeding.

Having read your recent posts and seen how anxious you were about pregnancy risks, I wanted to ask if you're feeling more secure with birth control now.

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Patricia H
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Hey catlover1997,

Have you looked at this? What Does Sex Feel Like?

Like the advice article says, your question, while understandable, is both a common one here on Scarleteen as it is also kind of hard to answer, be it your first time or the millionth time (alone, with someone else, or multiple partners), since there are so many variables that could happen to affect the outcome, and also because everyone experiences the same things differently.

What it shouldn't feel like, however, is painful, be it physically or mentally, unsafe, or in any way where you feel uncomfortable, e.g. being coerced into having sex when you clearly don't want to. If any of this happens, please be sure that you know where to go to seek appropriate help and assistance.

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catlover1997
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Hey all!

Thanks so much for all the responses! Thank you all for your input [Smile] I was just wondering like; is it normal to bleed your second time? What were your guys second time like? I'd really like to know [Smile] Thank you!!! [Smile]

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Robin Lee
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What someone else experienced during their second time with intercourse, or their tenth, or one-hundredth, won't really tell you about what your own experiences with intercourse. It's okay to ask what other people's experiences were like, but I am wondering what you're hoping to learn from others' experiences. There aer a lot of things with sex that are really individual, and that we can only learn for ourselves by experiecing them ourselves.

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catlover1997
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Hey [Smile]
Okay, don't worry. Now I feel like some stupid naive sixteen year old [Frown] ahahahaha.

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catlover1997,

There's no need to feel stupid or naive. It's totally okay to be curious and want to know if what you experienced is "normal". But the truth is there is no "normal", which is kind of awesome, right!?! All of our bodies are unique, are partners are unique, so we're going to experience things differently [Smile]

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Oh okay [Smile] thank you for all of that very helpful information [Smile]
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catlover1997
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And also Robin Lee, I'm kinda feeling bette about the whole birth control thing. I'd feel a lot safer if I was on the pill but that obviously can't happen [Frown] soo.......
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