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Uber_Jess
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My mom has recently been poking around in my room when I am not around. While she did not find my stash of condoms she DID find a vibrator my sis gave me for my birthday. Nothing grotesque- just a little 5 inch vibrator. We got into a huge fight about it and they threatened to send me to a military camp for the summer and to disown my sister! I think they imagine me and my sis "lezzing out" which I find highly repulsive (the sister thing not the lesbian part.) Now they are on such high alert I cannot even go poo without them checking on me(I'm serious)! If this keeps up I will go crazier than my uncle Roy- and he has been institutionalized. Help!
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I have nothing constructive to add I just want to say that that is a really frustrating situation and I wish you the best of luck.
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That they're equating you owning a vibrator with you having an incestuous lesbian relationship, and that they'd invade your privacy to such a degree, is actually really worrying to me. I don't quite know what to do about it, but it seems that they're being incredibly controlling, beyond what's usually seen as acceptable.

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Heather
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Jess, like Derpy, this sounds pretty disturbing to me, and like there's some dynamics in your home that simply don't sound safe or healthy.

In other words, this doesn't sound like it's about a vibrator to me: it sounds like there's a way bigger issue of a home where things sound pretty wonky, at best, and possibly unhealthy or even abusive, at worst. Have you ever talked to anyone safe -- like a teacher, healthcare provider, social service worker, or safe extended family member -- about these kinds of things? If not, I'd suggest that. You recently posted that your mother schedule a first GYN exam for you: if there's no one else, that might be a good choice of person to disclose these things to.

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Uber_Jess
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Thanks everybody.

My sister came over last night with her boyfriend and best of all- they brought my brother who had not talked to our parents for like a year. We had an intervention of sorts. Not sure how my parents are adjusting but I will keep you guys informed!

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Go sibling power!

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Natasha34
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Maybe you can talk to your mom or something I know how it feels to have a difficult family, trust me I have one. I can't talk to my bf without them saying me whore or slut. I get it's hard but i'm sure that if you talk to her and explain that sexuality is normal maybe she'll calm down.
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