Hi, I have a question about orgasms...I'm a 19 year old lesbian, and I'm totally capable of coming through masturbation (usually by rubbing my clitoris on a pillow or whatever), but I've never managed to come with a partner...the thing is, I've read about the g-spot and stuff, but I've never gotten pleasure from being penetrated. I've had several different sexual partners who've fingered me without getting me off, and in fact, I've never even been able to entirely insert a tampon correctly, which I *think* is part of the whole "not liking penetration" thing. I used to show symptoms of PCOS so doctors definitely examined my reproductive system and never, as far as I know, discovered anything anatomically wrong with me...
So could it be that I just can't orgasm through penetration, and should just focus on other means? Is it even A Thing/possible to be totally incapable of coming in that way? Or am I just doing it "wrong" somehow?
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Great questions, by the way! Orgasms are a common topic discussed on this website, and in fact, we have a ton of resources to choose from! Here are some that I managed to find relating to your situation:
And no, there is nothing wrong or abnormal about not being able to orgasm through internal stimulation. If you find penetration generally undesirable or uncomfortable, then I wouldn't stress it at all. My girlfriend is much the same way, so penetration is simply not part of the repertoire for her, and neither of us finds it a problem. All should be negotiable with your partner.
Hopefully the resources provided for you will help. Mine is just my two cents from a personal perspective.
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