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Uber_Jess
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A couple weeks ago when I was masturbating in my room my dad barged in WITHOUT KNOCKING and there I was half-naked fingering myself! I don't know who was more embarrassed but he left in a hurry. Anyways since then things have been real awkward between me and my parents (who have stated that masturbating is not something a girl my age should be doing.)
Now they give me such little privacy that I have resorted to masturbating while I shower (which is easier said than done.) Is there some way to get them off my case? I haven't had sex since the incident for fear of getting caught. BTW my bf and I are super careful- we ALWAYS use a condom and I am on the pill. So its not like we are irresponsible

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Heather
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Well, since the cat's out of the bag already, as it were, how about talking to one or both of them about this directly, and asking for some more privacy outright? Even just asking if they could please knock on your door before opening it is hardly an unusual request.

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Uber_Jess
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Well they dont know about the sex but the masturbation issue is rediculous. I have overheard my dad saying this would be normal if I were a boy but that masturbating is not proper for a girl. My mom agrees! My only thought is to go talk to my big sister. She goes to college in town and we talk about everything (she was the first person I called after I lost my virginity.) Hopefully, as a sexually active woman, she would stick up for me (no pun intended.)
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Heather
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It stinks that they have such sexist attitudes about masturbation, but that doesn't mean you still can't ask them to knock first.

If nothing else, you can say it's for them, so they don't have to see you doing something so horrendously unfeminine even again. [Razz]

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Uber_Jess
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Yeah my sister said pretty much the same thing. I will give it a shot. Thanks!
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