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ohbother
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i've recently lost the will to have sex after 3 years of being active with my boyfriend. he gets upset about it, but doesn't force me to do anything. when we first started being active, we used to have some form of sex whenever we saw each other. now we maybe have sex maybe once or twice a month, and when we do, i'm really lazy about it. i'm never in the mood anymore and i don't know why. is this normal? what can i do to bring back my sex drive?
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lucylou
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I can totally relate to this, I'm in exactly the same situation. :/
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Heather
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Not in the mood for any kind of sex -- including say, masturbation, or even say, having any feelings of sexual desire, having sexual fantasies -- or not in the mood for sex with this specific person?

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ohbother
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Any kind. I might feel a little drive, but then, like I said, I get really lazy about it.
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Heather
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In the past, has this been different *separate* from this boyfriend? In other words, before you two were together, would you say that your desire to masturbate, for instance, or level of sexual fantasy was considerably higher than now?

If it was, then it sounds like you might, in fact, be having a period of lower libido than usual.

While it's not uncommon for anyone to have phases like that, when they go on for months or more, there are some things that are often at play.

I have a good list questions about them here: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/wheres_my_sex_drive_driven_off_to

Why don't you take a look, and then we can pick up this conversation from there?

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